Genres: Adult, Non-fiction
Publication Date: September 11, 2018 by Atria Books
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Source: Audiobook Received for Review
A transformative book urging twenty-first century-women to embrace their anger and harness it as a tool for lasting personal and societal change.
Women are angry, and it isn’t hard to figure out why.
We are underpaid and overworked. Too sensitive, or not sensitive enough. Too dowdy or too made-up. Too big or too thin. Sluts or prudes. We are harassed, told we are asking for it, and asked if it would kill us to smile. Yes, yes it would.
Contrary to the rhetoric of popular “self-help” and an entire lifetime of being told otherwise, our rage is one of the most important resources we have, our sharpest tool against both personal and political oppression. We’ve been told for so long to bottle up our anger, letting it corrode our bodies and minds in ways we don’t even realize. Yet our anger is a vital instrument, our radar for injustice and a catalyst for change. On the flip side, the societal and cultural belittlement of our anger is a cunning way of limiting and controlling our power.
We are so often told to resist our rage or punished for justifiably expressing it, yet how many remarkable achievements in this world would never have gotten off the ground without the kernel of anger that fueled them? Rage Becomes Her makes the case that anger is not what gets in our way, it is our way, sparking a new understanding of one of our core emotions that will give women a liberating sense of why their anger matters and connect them to an entire universe of women no longer interested in making nice at all costs.
Following in the footsteps of classic feminist manifestos like The Feminine Mystique and Our Bodies, Ourselves, Rage Becomes Her is an eye-opening book for the twenty-first century woman: an engaging, accessible credo offering us the tools to re-understand our anger and harness its power to create lasting positive change.
I received this book for free in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review.
Rage Becomes Her is an important book that discusses how men and women’s anger is perceived differently. Men can express anger and no one bats an eye at them, it’s expected, but women are shamed or looked down on if they are “too angry”.
This nonfiction book is a good introduction to learning more about how differently men and women are perceived by society. Most of the information from this book was not new to me. It’s research I’ve read about before. I think this is a good intro if you’re not as well versed in some of the research and topics discussed, but if you have a background in this or have done research/read it’s not really new information.
One thing I didn’t agree with was that the author tied EVERYTHING back to women’s rage. While I do believe repressed anger and rage can lead to some of the negative effects Chemaly described, I do not believe that everything is tied to rage.
“Eleven is a prime ago to introduce your family to the feminist killjoy you have become.”
This book was well researched, diverse, and intersectional. In the beginning the author mentioned that most of the research/information she writes about pertains to women in the Western world, besides this she talks about how women of different ethnicities, SES, religion, and sexual orientation are affected by rage.
This book has three distinct sections. The first section talks about how men and women’s experience with anger differs. The middle section was about the different reasons women feel rage: the wage gap, treatment by medical professionals, politics, etc. The last section was about what women can do to express rage/anger in a healthy way. I had an issue with one of her recommendations. Chemaly discusses how therapy can be a beneficial and healthy way to work through rage, but then in the next sentence says that it’s not. While I agree that there are issues with therapy/theories because they were created to treat the middle age/middle class/straight/white/Christian/male, diversity and cultural competency is a HUGE part of counseling.
The author, Soraya Chemaly, is the narrator of the audiobook. I thought the narration was just okay. It was a little monotone, which didn’t captivate me and made me make more of an effort to pay attention to the book.
Overall I think this is a good book with an important message, but it is definitely more of an introduction. So if you’re wanting to learn more about feminism, how men and women are treated differently, this is a great book to start with!